
Coach Stories
Vignettes, anecdotes and quotes on Coach experience.

Coach 5: Story
Reflecting on their journey, the coach described how they were uncertain about their feelings toward girls from a young age, viewing them more as friends despite being in relationships with them. In their teens, they entered into a relationship with someone they met at an event, and it was during this time they discovered they were HIV positive. Initially confused, as they were only dating this individual, they later learned that HIV can be transmitted in various ways beyond sexual contact.
The coach noted that one of the challenges they face is with younger players, particularly those who already have some knowledge of HIV but resist taking medication. When recruiting players, the coach explained that they engage by first considering the players' age, saying, "I put myself in their shoes." Recruitment often occurs during outreach in places where men gather for sports, but the coach finds that many are hesitant to engage openly due to feelings of being “hidden.” In these cases, they leave flyers, though they feel this method is not always effective, as very few follow up.
The coach measures success through the suppression of viral loads and by seeing men visit the clinic when public healthcare systems often stigmatise them. Part of their training included sensitisation around transgender individuals and the discrimination key populations often face in health services. They also shared that many players struggle with mental health issues due to unemployment and abusive relationships, which leads to food insecurity and, in some cases, depression. These factors often cause players to default on their medications. The coach believes that to reimagine the program, recruitment efforts should expand to other spaces like clubs, taverns, restaurants, and social environments where men tend to gather. They also suggested utilising social media to reach more individuals.
